There is truth in the adage “expectations are planned disappointments.” If there is one thing grief has taught me, it is the only thing you can honestly expect is the unexpected. Most of us understand this, yet we continue to get blindsided by expectations, both negative and positive. We continue to pay a high price for having expectations.
The title of this blog is NOT a misprint. Many articles have been written about how to help those going through grief, for some reason there are still a lot of people who don’t get it.
I thought it might be fun to write a 10-point-guide for those wanting to be ---- the least helpful, the least supportive and as ineffective as possible to someone going through a loss. I think I covered most of the finer points here, but feel free to add to the list if you feel I have missed something.
Without a doubt, the most often asked question of me over the years in media interviews has been … “Alan, how does someone survive a tragic loss?” This difficult question deserves a thorough and well thought out answer … I soon discovered however that reporters were not going to give me the needed time or space to expound about all that it takes to survive the unimaginable. So, I decided I needed a quick and easy answer to this complex question … and so my reply simply became; “educate yo...